Letting Go Is Hard

Why Letting Go is Hard and Why It Matters

Have you ever found yourself holding onto something, even though you know it’s time to let go? Maybe it’s a memory that still stings, a habit you can’t break, or a regret you revisit like a well-worn path. Letting go is one of the hardest things we do, and yet it’s also one of the most transformative.

Why is it so difficult?
At its core, holding onto the past is about survival. Our brains are wired to seek safety and familiarity, even if those things are no longer serving us. The stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we’ve been through become comfortable, even when they’re painful. Letting go feels like stepping into the unknown, and that can be scary.

There’s also the fear of losing control. If we release our grip on the past, what’s left? Who are we without the pain, the struggle, or the memory? These questions can feel daunting, so we cling tightly, hoping that by holding on, we’re somehow preserving a part of ourselves.

But here’s the truth: Holding on doesn’t protect us. It keeps us stuck. Imagine trying to walk forward while dragging a heavy suitcase behind you. Sure, you might make progress, but it’ll be slow, exhausting, and full of frustration. Letting go is like setting the suitcase down and realizing you’re free to move forward with ease.

So, why does letting go matter?
Letting go creates space. When we release what no longer serves us, we open ourselves up to new opportunities, relationships, and experiences. We make room for joy, growth, and peace. Holding onto the past keeps us tethered, while letting go allows us to spread our wings.

It also empowers us to redefine our story. Instead of being a victim of our past, we become the author of our future. We get to decide what lessons we carry forward and what we leave behind.

If you’re reading this and thinking, “Okay, but how do I actually let go?” start with this: Be patient with yourself. Letting go is a process, not a switch you can flip overnight. It takes time, intention, and a whole lot of self-compassion.

This month, I invite you to reflect on what you’ve been carrying that no longer serves you. Is it a grudge? A regret? A belief about yourself that you’re ready to challenge? Whatever it is, know that you have the power to set it down.

Remember, letting go isn’t about forgetting—it’s about choosing freedom over fear, and possibility over pain.

Take a moment to write down one thing you’re ready to let go of. Then, create a small ritual to symbolize your release. Maybe you write it on a piece of paper and tear it up, or light a candle and focus on the flame as a symbol of renewal. Whatever you choose, let it be a moment of empowerment and intention.

xoxo,
Laura

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